Open Relationships - Desire and the Importance of Failing

Hey everybody,

I just wanted to say a quick hello and apologize for only writing half of the pervious post I intended to write on m 2nd epiphany and scientific developments. I'm still working on it so I will complete it and add lots of tags when I get to it.

In the meantime, some interesting quotations I've come across:

"things don't change, change things."

"the experience of being alive transforms."


My girlfriend and I are pursuing an open relationship, which I find to be extremely challenging at the moment (she has found someone to 'date' that we are both friends with, I have yet to find someone) and yet a natural progression from a mature loving relationship. I have a lot to say on this topic already so hopefully I'll be able to update further.

In that light, here's a snippet from Rumi's poem Desire and the Importance of Failing, from the book Feeling the Shoulder of the Lion:


The desire of each lover is
that the work of the other be perfected.
By this man-and-woman cooperation,
the world gets preserved.
Generation occurs.

Roses and blue arghawan flowers flower.
Night and day meet in a mutual hug.

So different, but they do love each other,
the day and the night, like family.

And without their mutual alternation
we would have no energy.

Every part of the cosmos draws toward its mate.
The ground keeps talking to the body,
saying, "Come back! It's better for you
down here where you came from."

The streamwater calls to the moisture in the body.
The fiery aether whispers to the body's heat,
"I am your origin. Come with me."

Seventy-two diseases are caused
by the various elements pulling inside the body.
Disease comes, and the organs
fall out of harmony.

We're like the four different birds,
that each had one leg tied in
with the other birds.

A flopping bouquet of birds!
Death releases the binding, and they fly off,
but before that, their pulling is our pain.

Consider how the soul must be,
in the midst of these tensions,
feelings its own exalted pull.

My longing is more profound.
These birds want the sweet green herbs
and the water running by.

I want the infinite!
I want wisdom.
These birds want orchards and meadows
and vines with fruit on them.

I want a vast expansion.
They want profit and the security
of having enough food.

Remember what the soul wants,
because in that, eternity
is wanting our souls!

Which is the meaning of the text,
They love That, and That loves them.

The gist is: whatever anyone seeks,
that is seeking the seeker.

No matter if it's animal,
or vegetable, or mineral.

Every bit of the universe
is filled with wanting,
and whatever any bit wants,
wants the wanter!

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